Christmas is quickly approaching and you can feel it. The wrapping paper, the lights, the shopping, the family, and the gifts. Christmas is a time of family traditions, celebrating with loved ones, and of course, giving and receiving gifts. But amid all of the commercialism, familial festivities, and culture lies a much deeper question and issue that should terrify us and move us to repentance. The question is this: Does Jesus know who you are?
Note that the question is not “Do you know who Jesus is?” We all think we do. Just as the multitudes knew who Jesus Christ was, most of them could also rattle off the name of the president or other public figures without hesitation. We could do the same thing. The question, though, is this: Does Jesus know who you are? Has He written your name in the Lamb’s Book of Life? Do you know Him, and is He known by you, as His child, His joint heir?
Jesus’ Rebuke of Religious Hypocrisy
Jesus would have had no problem knowing exactly who you are if you were one of the men in Matthew 23. You may remember that in this passage, Jesus had a bone to pick with the scribes and Pharisees. They sat “in Moses’ seat” meaning they had taken positions of authority among the people. Jesus said to them “you have authority, and it will not be taken from you.” (Matt. 23: 2) They were the religious and spiritual leaders of the day. The people loved them, respected them, and followed them. The common people were told to listen to what they taught but not to follow their example because they did not practice what they taught.
“Don’t do what they do because they do not practice what they preach.” Authority without integrity is nothing.
These men would impose huge demands on people but never offer to help lift a burden. They required people to follow 613 laws which were man-made requirements placed around God’s original Ten Commandments. They were more interested in relationship turned to religion than in relationship based on grace.
How often do we do this very same thing in our own lives? We tell our families to forgive but never really forgive in our own lives. We may talk about loving our enemies but secretly plot and plan evil against those who have done us wrong. We claim to follow Christ but our daily lives show a complete lack of His transforming power.
The Sin of Performance Faith
The saddest part of the story, however, is that the Pharisees did all that they did “to be seen by others.” It’s one thing to wear phylacteries or lengthen your tassels or love the place of greatest honor. (Matt. 23: 5) It’s even another to be known as “Rabbi.” It’s tragic to crave titles and applause from crowds of people. But when that’s what we live for, when that’s what we do life becomes a performance of faith rather than the reality of relationship.
Is that not the temptation and trap of our day in this age of social media? We can do every deed of service and post it online. We can give and hashtag it with a big photo to boot. We can feed the hungry and take a selfie of us doing it. We can serve others, make them feel important, and then post it on Facebook to show how important we are for doing it.
But the kind of faith that Jesus commends is different. It serves and never needs applause. It gives and never requires recognition. It loves and does not demand acknowledgment.
The couple who for twenty years never missed a Tuesday night tradition at a local Pizza Hut but someone paid for their meal one night without their knowledge is a great example of this. They went to eat their pizza that week and received the anonymous gift of love and kindness but when the people who gave the gift left before they could thank the Pizza Hut customers, weeks later a note came. “We just wanted to thank you for loving people the way Jesus does.”
Rules Before Relationship = Rebellion
Another very hurtful sin which is so common in many religious people and places is the requirement of a list of rules before relationship. We often tell people they must stop drinking or smoking or cussing or drinking coffee or eating sugar or listening to rock music or not wearing long skirts or pants before they can have a relationship with Jesus. It’s a brutal system of us versus them, good versus evil, right versus wrong, black versus white, with no room for gray or grace.
But Jesus never did it this way. He always placed relationship above rules. He always reached out to people in love and then asked them to follow Him in life transformation. But the moment we place rules before relationship is the moment we create more rebels than saints.
Ask yourself and your family about your church and your own faith life. Do they feel like they must measure up to some impossible list of rules and regulations in order to have a relationship with God? Ask your family if they were being interviewed, how would they describe your faith? Is it a burden of legalism or an invitation to a loving relationship?
Servant Leadership
Jesus makes another remarkable statement about leadership in Matthew 23. “The greatest among you will be your servant.” Jesus turns the world’s idea of leadership on its head by stating, “Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.” This is why servant leadership is such a vital concept in ministry.
Servant leaders do not stand in the front and tell everyone else to do what they say. They work from behind and lift everyone else up so that everyone gets served and the least receive the most.
This is why James and John’s mother’s request for her sons to be on Jesus’ right and left hand in His kingdom was so fascinating. She misunderstood the operation of God’s kingdom. The first will be last and the last will be first in God’s kingdom. Greatness will be measured by servanthood, not status.
Living Above Reproach
My father had a simple principle of never being alone in his office with someone of the opposite sex unless they were your wife or your daughter. This is not because he did not trust others or thought they would sin if alone with someone of the opposite sex. This was not because he was full of fear or distrust. This was simply to ensure that he lived his life above reproach. No one could ever look at his life and question his integrity or twist his actions in any way.
I have often said that we live in a world of whispers and a generation of selfies, and that is so true. With the rise of social media, with the freedom of anonymity on the internet, and with the staggering number of people who record other people’s conversations and actions, we must live in such a way that our life is above reproach.
This does not mean that we cannot ever do anything wrong. It does not mean that we live a life of perfectionism. It does mean that our life matches our words. It means that people could read what we say about Jesus and look at our lives and see no great chasm between our words and our deeds.
Does Jesus Know Who You Are?
You have four days until Christmas. The real test is not about whether you will be giving gifts or whether you will be receiving gifts. The real question is this: Will you give away the gift of salvation to a person this Christmas who needs it?
This is not easy or simple or a matter of one or two sentences. This is a matter of daily prayer, asking God to open the hearts of people, to allow the Holy Spirit to move on them, to send divine appointments your way, and to give you the opportunity and the courage to speak life and truth into the lives of family members and friends who have no idea of the urgency and depth of Jesus’ love for them.
For if we will not tell someone the truth, how much do we really love them? For if we will not lovingly challenge people and make them feel uncomfortable for their own good, how much do we love them? And if love without truth is not really love at all, let’s have a Merry Christmas.